Having children might be a biological imperative – but it’s also nose-bleedingly pricey.
You can shave the edges from a budget all day long, but it’s the really big things that make the difference. Large chunks of debt spread over a lifetime, where you live in the world, what you do for a living, how many children you have.
The cost of raising a child, has been calculated many different ways and varies considerably, but it’s safe to say you will not escape for less than several hundred thousand dollars. The idea of putting food units into a child at least 3 times a day for nearly 2 decades is still amazing to me, in both the expense and the sheer repetitiveness of the task. And that is just one part of the massive investment of time, money and energy required to raise a child properly.
I have 2 kids so this is not news to me. I can not and do not want to change this fact, but I also wish that everyone thinking of having children would truly understand and feel totally free to embrace the following truths:
- You do not have to have any children, if you don’t want them. No one on earth has the right to pressure you into doing so, not your friends, your parents, or society at large.
- You do not have to have more than one child. Only children turn out just fine. A sibling can be a soulmate, but they can also become an estranged nemesis.
- A vasectomy is an excellent way of preventing further pregnancies and avoiding the hassle of other forms of less reliable contraception.
Children are awesome and precious, but the world is not exactly lacking in new humans… in fact this article from The Guardian forecasts that the world’s population, rather than peaking and levelling off in 2050, is set to balloon even higher – reaching 11 billion in 2100.
Without wanting to be too graphic, there is literal ocean of sperms cruising around onboard the several billion males on this planet. Making sure a few less of them are introduced to eggs in the first place is a pretty sane and admirable move I reckon.
I talked to my friend John Johnington (NOT HIS REAL NAME), who recently had a vasectomy – about his experience:
How much did it cost? (via private doc or public system?)
Were you nervous?
Name of Doctor?
His Bedside manner?
Any alarming/amusing comedic moments?
Pain management method? (i/v sedation? valium?)
Any distracting artwork on walls of surgery?
How much roughly do you think you’ve saved in terms of lifetime child rearing expenses?
Was the amount of actual pain in line with expected pain levels?
How are you feeling post surgery?
What made you realise you were finished after 2 children? (a messenger in a dream? a dawning horror?)
Which statement most closely reflects your attitude after having a vasectomy?:
1) I feel like more of a man because i have generously saved my partner from any further administration and pain related to contraception.
2) I feel like slightly less of a man because my sense of manhood is tied up in notions of my ability to reproduce
3)I feel the same as before, possibly lighter.
What would you say to any other men thinking of getting a vasectomy?
What rhymes with Vasectomy?
Thanks John…. you’re a good man.